Why do you think January is often called “Divorce Month?”
I’m wondering if you’re reading this because you know that you stayed for one more year hoping that things would change with your spouse.
January can be a month of renewal and new beginnings OR a month filled with sadness and regrets knowing that nothing has changed at all.
I always hope for the best for the clients who come to me in that place of “Should I stay or should I go?” as I am never advocating for divorce.
Professionals say that there seems to be a surge in divorce filings in the month of January.
I believe that it’s possible, and I think there are several factors that may be contributing to this phenomenon.
Here are several thoughts about why this may be happening:
New Year, New Chapter:
The symbolism of a new year often prompts individuals to reflect on their lives, goals, and relationships. January marks a fresh start, encouraging people to reassess their priorities and consider significant changes. For couples experiencing dissatisfaction or lingering issues, the opportunity of a new beginning can move them into the decision to end an unhappy marriage.
Holiday Stress and Unrealistic Expectations:
The holiday season, from Thanksgiving to New Year’s Day, can be a stressful time for couples. The pressure to create picture-perfect celebrations, manage family dynamics, and meet everyone else’s expectations can strain relationships. Couples may find that the heightened stress during the holidays makes things even worse, leading them to reassess their compatibility and consider divorce.
Delayed Decision-Making:
Many couples delay making decisions about ending their marriage during the holidays to preserve the festive spirit for themselves and their families. Postponing such significant decisions until January allows couples to navigate the holiday season without the added emotional burden. Once the festivities are over, they may find themselves ready to address long-standing concerns and make decisions about the future.
Financial Considerations:
The end of the year often coincides with the conclusion of financial matters, including year-end bonuses, tax considerations, and financial reviews. Couples may wait until the new year in the hopes that it will lead to a smoother separation process. This may or may not work out, as finances are one of the biggest issues in why people put off divorce. If there is a history of financial infidelity, this may be putting what has led to a lack of trust in the relationship, over the edge.
Seeking Professional Guidance:
January is also a popular time for individuals to seek expert help, including divorce coaches and therapists as well as other divorce professionals. As people set new goals for the year, addressing personal and relationship issues becomes a priority. Seeking guidance from professionals during this time can lead couples down the path of self-discovery, helping them make informed decisions about their future.
This is about you and your future no matter what direction this leads you. Having the information and education to make the best decisions for you and your family is critical.
Going through this blindly and “hoping for the best” will not give you the outcome you deserve.
Every single divorce is different. Sure, there are certain guidelines when it comes to division of property, parenting plans, etc., but there happens to be way more to the divorce process than that.
And you have the right to ask the questions and get the answers so you can make the most informed decisions in your situation.
I want my clients to know the right questions to ask their attorney.
I want them to know how to talk to their partner so that the conflict does not escalate and affect the outcome.
I want clients to not make decisions based on emotions, but based on having the correct and accurate information.
This is where a Certified Divorce Coach® can be your thinking partner and advocate through one of the most difficult times in your life.
Please reach out for a complimentary call and I will answer your questions and give you a roadmap if you decide to move forward with your separation or divorce.
Please don’t do this alone.
I see too many individuals with regrets and who wish they had known this before it was too late.